From my own experience and from what I've read on the boards this is very common in MLCers. Stress and depression has a tendency to age a person pretty quickly.
Have you noticed your W's eyes? Many report a dull and lifeless look in them. I've seen this in my H's as well.
It can be dull and lifeless, or "black" with dark colored eyes. They will look like a predator.
Look at old pictures when they liked you, you can see the love in the eyes.
