MLC spouse projecting their negativity onto the BS

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Second, at one point about 7-8 months ago, when my wife still lived at home, I was snooping and saw some e-mail exchanges between her and DJ (her EA partner), one in particular where she mentioned that she had been unhappy [in our marriage?] since our daughter was born in late 2007. Could this suggest that her MLC has been going on since 2007, and the EA with DJ (which started July, 2009) was just a trigger for a different stage in the crisis (I think some call it "Replay" if I'm not mistaken.) Is it possible her MLC has been going on for 3 years or more already? What does all this suggest about the length, where's she's at, and she might reach the end of the MLC and the crisis end?

Dude, turn off trying to fix her.

MLC? Ha! She had an affair. She wasn't happy in the marriage and was immature enough to think the answer was an affair.

Period. This can happen at almost any age, and it does happen at any age after about 15.

So she tells you all this crap about how you suck, and you argue with her about the accuracy and try to get her to change her feelings? How often does that ever work?

The detatched response to somebody saying "You suck and make me miserable" is something like, "That's not nice, bye".