I gotta agree with Puppy. Not only were you pursuing, but you're forgetting to think about your W. Any advice she'd give you now would be tainted by her emotions; guilt (which is where the "awesome person" line comes from), and her involvement with the OM. In a year or so, after that A has cooled and she's had some time to really reflect, she might be able to objectively tell you what was really wrong. But now? Not a chance. She's as high as a kite on hormones.
The physical meeting thing is probably just her trying to gauge you. See if you'll be a safety net etc. You were smart to avoid them. It doesn't mean anything other than her trying to keep some control over you.
