LNL - I agree they shouldn't be forced on an unwilling partner - but if HE's asleep when it starts, and SHE's asleep - and I suspect she must be responding to his touching in her sleep if he's able to accomplish anal intercourse, which as I said, isn't very easy to do due to the normal sphincter response to tighten up on stimulation. Notice too that she said she didn't like it, but didn't mention whether it had previously been part of their sexual repertoire - if it had, he may have just thought he had to wait until she seemed to respond to him - and maybe she did, in her sleep.
I guess what bothered me most about the whole thing was the insistence on viewing his behavior in the worst possible light (rapist) rather than the most likely light (given his otherwise excellent behavior, according to her) - and the most likely explanation is that he's just a poor guy who wants to be welcomed into his wife's arms in a loving way.
