I'll have a look at the books recommended earlier (likely the softcore version) as I have a pretty good idea "where" I'm going with this "re-discovery".

But I appreciate the disctinction between the WHAT's and the WHY's. Additionally, I'll refer to "all" my relationships for notes as to WHAT so I can get all the WHY's.

Thanks everyone.

Since I'll get resistance/denial from W's mom, is there a softer angle/script I should work with?