Quote: If only people knew how (relatively) easy it can be to set that spiral moving in an upward direction instead! (BTW - you are sounding great on your thread, dfb )
Ellie
To set the upward spiral, you have to have your mind involved. Just like sex...I can be totally not in the mood, but I never have wanted to say "no". I guess my thought has always been, what if something ever happened to him? I don't want the last thing I did to be a rejection! A little mind power and I can be in the mood very quickly...
And thanks - I appreciate you stopping by my thread. I am doing really well, actually. Though the contact is still high obviously with ex-b and myself, and he refuses to take the phone back. We just are too much a part of each others lives. If he meets someone, or if I meet someone, then I guess we'll deal with that at that point (I can't just be friends with him, and he WILL get the phone back at that point).
Anyway - I hope the poster in the other thread gets the help she needs. She is the one with the issues that need help (for valid reasons), he just is trying to show his love for her. Sex should be part of a healthy marriage.
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