IF he wanted to change and step up to the plate, he would have DONE that by now!!!!!!!!!!! He just doesn't have anyplace else to go.
Let me ask you this - how much is he paying you in rent?
Look, the key to a situation like this is to PUT DOWN IN WRITING, somewhere that you can pull it out and look at it, exactly what the RIGHT guy would be doing in this situation? The RIGHT guy would be finding a relationship counselor himself. The RIGHT guy would be paying his share of expenses, even if he had to work two jobs to do it. The RIGHT guy would be fixing up your house. The RIGHT guy would leave when ypu asked him to - then woo you again.
HE IS NOT THE RIGHT GUY! And no amount of wishing and hoping and thinking he has "potential" is gonna make him so.
