dfb - yes, it's sad, because she is making her H the enemy, and by all appearances, he must be a pretty good guy.
And how many of us here slipped into that trap of viewing our spouses as an adversary? I think, when our needs aren't being met, and our expectation is that our S is going to meet all those needs, then disappointment and anger start to set in - and the downward spiral begins. If only people knew how (relatively) easy it can be to set that spiral moving in an upward direction instead! But to do that, you must set aside your own disappointment, focus on your partner's needs, and develop more internal resources so that you are not as dependent on your S meeting your own needs. (BTW - you are sounding great on your thread, dfb )
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