Yeah, I got a nasty email from Mac too. I don't see it happening all over the board - mostly the Divorced forum, which is kind of understandable - I think that's what Michele was getting at in her forum mission statement, because it really is a place for people who are divorced and moving on. Anybody who still has hope for their M should probably not move there, because there are too many people who are no longer DBing and their advice isn't always helpful to someone who is.
I also notice this on the sexual issues boards - I think because many of the people there aren't actually going through the DB process.
I think what is happening on LDwife's thread, though, is also indicative of a larger societal problem of male-bashing. Somehow it is okay to say things about men that would be considered absurd if you turned them around. What if men were dragging their wives off to counselors and accusing them of rape because their wives tried to give them a BJ in their sleep?
Unfortunately, too, I think that an entire industry has sprung up around issues of victimhood. Not to diminish the horrible thing that happened to LDwife in her teens, but there is a lot of support for remaining a "victim" all of your days - and it conveniently lets you off the hook for any responsibility for your own life. The more you dwell on the bad thing that happened to you in your past, the less you have to take responsibility for not pulling your weight in your present relationships. And women seem to be really prone to this - where, for instance, are all the books and support groups to help men who have been mugged?
