How did this get started, this attitude that normal loving husbands wanting to have sex with their wives could be equated with selfishness or assault just because the W wasn't feeling as horny as the H?
Ellie
Ellie - I went and checked it out and I agree with you.
I posted on there - rape is a violent act. A man who wants to make love to his wife is normal. And I am sure it's hard to keep hearing "no" all the time. I'd said that I maybe have said "no" once to my ex-b. Even if I'm not in the mood, I can get there pretty easily. It's like if I'm not in the mood for chocolate - wave it in front of my face and I'll take it!
She has issues to deal with, but they aren't related to her husband. He isn't the enemy. After the initial first few months, I was actually more HD than my ex-b. I wished that he'd get in the mood as quickly as I did! I probably bugged him too much, instead of just keeping myself attractive (which is what I try to do more now).
She mentioned that they were both seeing a sex therapist. It sounds more like she just needs to deal with the issues of intimacy and then hopefully the sex part will just take care of itself. I can't imagine having to deal with molestation, rape, etc. and then be with a man after that - but it's not her husbands fault.
