Hi all Things are good here. Just wanted to post about something elsewhere on the board. Wandered onto a thread in the Sex Starved Marriage (just thought I'd check it out - no such problems here anymore ). There's a thread there by LDwife - woman with history of rape in teens, as soon as she married H her drive took a dive,and now she's decided that since her poor starved H sometimes initiates sex in the middle of the night when she's asleep and he's half asleep too, that he's a rapist!
Now, I find this really unsettling - not so much that she's thinking this, it's obvious she is looking desperately for a way to avoid dealing with her own issues because true intimacy would make her vulnerable, so she's shifting the focus onto her H. But I find it quite disturbing how many women are jumping in and agreeing with her that her H has done something horrible!!! I feel sorry for you men!!!
How did this get started, this attitude that normal loving husbands wanting to have sex with their wives could be equated with selfishness or assault just because the W wasn't feeling as horny as the H? I admit, it hits close to home because when i was in the worst of my thyroid problems and exhausted all the time, I sometimes viewed my H's requests for sex as just another demand on my time and energies - poor man!
I guess I'm realizing there is a warped societal support out there for this male-bashing viewpoint, and I want to apologize to all the men here for the weirdness of women!!
). There's a thread there by LDwife - woman with history of rape in teens, as soon as she married H her drive took a dive,and now she's decided that since her poor starved H sometimes initiates sex in the middle of the night when she's asleep and he's half asleep too, that he's a rapist!
