As long as you agree with "the world according to her", that's what you will get. We can't help you if you won't help yourself. And Retrouvaille is not therapy. It is learning to talk to your spouse as equals -- something you need more than a weekend's training on!
Well the thing is, she has to agree to it as well. I can do all the work in the world, but in the end if she doesnt agree then Im talking to myself. I keep hoping the light will come on for her and she will say...this man before me is a pretty good man. What the hell was I thinking. But i have been pushing her hard lately because iM sick of waiting for her to recover from her grief of this other man. SO...its my impatience that is at the center of a lot of ths.
