NM, I'm kinda in the same boat as you...though my latest separation hasn't been as long as yours but I think after the next couple of outings with G4 I'm going to just chill out. With so much going on in my life and adjusting to taking care of everything myself now I really just have to focus on me. The only thing though is I do like to go out and do something fun sometimes and I don't have any single friends to do that with. That's the only positive for me right now hanging out with female friends.
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Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Yes, those meetup groups are great for meeting new friends!
I am not dating to get friends. I am dating for validation and to see what's out there and to get some of my needs met. I am clear with every man I am dating that I am not looking for anything serious. I only came on strong to zoobrew but am minding my ps and qs for my date tonight with Rugby!
Today I took S to the zoo and got sad when seeing the damn couples with their babies! When will I not be sad? When will I not be bitter and depressed over raising S alone? Ugh...pity parties are so not sexy!
Well then I am laughing while watching the Daily Show and did a weird habit thing where I turned my head to share the laugh and look at....???? I think I am losing my mind...lol!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Well then I am laughing while watching the Daily Show and did a weird habit thing where I turned my head to share the laugh and look at....???? I think I am losing my mind...lol!
I still occasionally do this. Moreso in my truck than on the couch. Rarer and rarer, though. Go figure.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
This never really happens to me unless I'm half asleep. I guess I'm very aware that I'm alone...
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
ok just got back from my date. On the down side, he looks less cute than his pictures! But not ugly..is that harsh? On the upside, the conversation was good and he was a gentleman and was very affectionate....the way I want and need. Caressing and good kissing(not as good as zoobrew!). I made it clear AGAIN that I am not ready for anything serious...just dating for fun and getting out there. But damn he was charming and kept telling me how good I felt (he was caressing my legs and stomach!) and said he was a reformed bad boy! lol! He called me 15 minutes after the end of the date (as I arrived home) and wanted to double check that I will go out with him again and that he had the best night ever and that I wanted to see him again. ugh! I said yes I did and that we would talk soon to set it up. I will go out with him again but...I told him previously that I wanted to date a little while with an end point but not leading to a serious boyfriend because my heart is not ready for that! I TOLD HIM!
I sent a text to zoobrew that said "damn you, zoobrew! Am on a date with a 3rd guy and you are still the sexiest and smartest and I hope I didn't come on too strong but if I did...so be it!
And zoobrew replied with (edited) "lol. No way could you ever come on too strong. I could easily beat you in that category....(edited) lol lol lol :)"
and then he said "btw flattery will get you everywhere. But truth be told I'm conflicted about (ex girlfriend) and want to resolve that issue first before pursuing something in good conscience. Call me if you want to discuss. Enjoy your date, cutie! :)"
so I replied (at 12 a.m. something....)
"ok well I totally get it and am only capable of a fling right now...even though you are top notch boyfriend material if that makes sense! But I COMPLETELY get it if you can't go there because of your feelings toward (exgirlfriend)! Thanks for your honesty and for the BEST KISSING EVER! My date was chuck steak compared to your filet mignon!"
And I feel fine!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Oh and a P.S. tonight stbxh picked up S. I gave a 30 second run down. He had to use the bathroom. So when walking down the hall he saw the backpack out (lol! just left out from Monday night- I didn't put it away!) and my clothes next to the iron on the table.
Well he said "so am I still taking him overnight?"
I looked right at him and said "yes..." DUH! WHY THE F WOULD IT CHANGE?? I am so annoyed with his double checking on the times!!
then I rushed them out the door- "oK well bye bye S!"
I think he suspects I am dating! hahahaha!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Wow Newmama, you are the Dating Queen! I've only been gone a few days from your thread and now there's not only zoobrew but Mr Rugby as well ! lol!
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369
But I COMPLETELY get it if you can't go there because of your feelings toward (exgirlfriend)! Thanks for your honesty and for the BEST KISSING EVER! My date was chuck steak compared to your filet mignon!"