she has long told me that the longer you are with someone the less fire there is in the relationship
why do you believe what she tells you?
Well she has always been my friend and confidant. I have always relied on her to tell me the truth. So I tend to error on the side of believing her.
[quote]She is my partner, and sure enough I have seen this happen.
because she was out #$%*&@! another man
I completely agree with this. And stated from the beginning. Fell on deaf ears.
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So I dont know what to think
I think that is your first goal. Learn to think for yourself. What does AZRob believe? What are your values/morals? What are your convictions?
I dont think the open thing was a terrible idea. It certainly didnt run counter to my morals. Its just not something "I" want to do. To me, if we were going to do this, then its something we should be doing together. The seperating thing is my real issue with it.
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its a long standing problem between us, me desiring more of her then she can provide.
let me guess, she told you that?
Well i have never been in a 17 year marriage. So I can only believe what I am told or see. Our love life has cooled a lot over the years, something she always told me would happen.
