its a long standing problem between us, me desiring more of her then she can provide.
She can provide it, because she did it before. What the truth is that she is putting much of her attention on this other male, or herself and she's not giving it to you. It doesn't take much time, and even small amounts of time and attention she is not willing to give you.
What helped me is "What would I tell my son in the same situation?", "Do I want to teach my son through my inaction that this is OK, that it is OK for a woman to treat him like his mother treats me. Or is it, I'm that lowly of a man that I don't deserve mutual respect, generousity and a loving relationship?"
