azrob - I have a difficult M. My H has retained a lawyer (not yet filed D). I'm doing everything I can to save my M as that is what I feel is right for my situation.
I read your story. Even though I am a huge proponent of staying married v. getting divorced, IMO you do not have a M. Tell her what you want. If she wants the same thing (doesn't sound like it), see a MC. If not, move on. You deserve more. Your children deserve more.
Thanks, I dont disagree, my situation is pretty untenable right now. But I feel that I have to exhaust every resource possible before I put my family through this. She has cut me off on some things like Marriage COunselors and the like. But its hard to look into my kids eyes and be selfish so I need to exhaust every avenue. Which is why I came here...hoping to gain some more perspective.
