You will be surprised how much confidence and sense of security you will have restored into you when you have a real relationship partner.
What you are going to have to be careful going forward is you cannot project what your wife did to you onto the new lady. Your projection can cause her to lose trust, and then the relationship gets out of wack like it is today.
You don't have trust with her.
Marriage is a partnership.
Marriage is a trust.
Among other things.
As coach says, if she is unworthy of trust today and is comfortable with her actions - why should she change?
I guess. I dont know. I dont expect her to change who she is. But since we really arent animals I do expect her to change her actions. I guess im screwed here. I was really hoping for some advise but Im seeing the trend from everyone here.
Humans, can and DO change. We have to change in many cases or we can end up dead or in jail for example. People can change WHO they are as well ( as in what their priorities are in life )...
IN your case, she HAS to WANT to change. She has to believe that she wants to change.
Looking forward there are a great many people who will take you exactly as you are, and value you.
What your wife is doing to you, what many of OUR spouses are doing to us, devalue us.
Good luck to you.
Yeah, I know, I started standing up and its what led to all this. Im trying to hang in there now, but I need more then what IM getting.
