As far as the kids are concerned, as long as you and MsDanF are frequently and equally involved in their lives, they will be fine. You are their role model and they are watching how you deal with this....
Thanks Ready. My friends think that I am nuts and that the situation I am in with W is really weird. They can't believe how well I am handling this (with your guys help!) or how nice I am to W and she to me. They just think it is strange that we are not fighting and belligerent with each other. Sometimes I think that would make things easier.
We will both definitely be involved in the kids lives. Neither of us would give that up. My W is really a GREAT mother, but does too much for the kids a lot of times. She isn't teaching them any independence. I have taken a much more active role in that and in their lives in general since January and I feel much better about myself because of it. W was right that I wasn't involved enough.
Gonna stop in and see blondie for a little bit tonight.