I am so pleased you did not have to endure a trial. Like you, my H and his legal counsel waited until the 11th hour to inform me and my counsel they did not want a trial nor a divorce. It's a relief yet hell when an attny and a WAS decides to play on emotions.
Since your situation is so volatile I would bet that you and your W will be in separate rooms and the mediator will move from room to room during negotiations. I assume your attny will be present during mediation?
Her hatred is HER problem. Maybe one day she will see that her choice to remain in the cycle of hatred has yielded her nothing more than damaged children and relationships. Or maybe not. Either way you are a good man.
Almost three years later my H is now back to sending me very nasty texts and e-mails. I equate it to a petulant child who can't seem to find their way and is too spoiled to realize "finding their way" takes work. His self proclaimed happiness sure is cluttered with lots of anger and insecurity. Sounds an awful lot like your W.
