Yeah so help

[john28]

You said you're a one woman kind of guy. Typically, that means you desire to be with a one-man kind of woman.

You've fooled yourself into thinking this is OK. Obviously, it's not with you.

I believe you when you say she doesn't want to divorce. Of course not! She gets everything she wants and has to give nothing back! Nothing, I say? Yes, I said that. Think about it really hard.

So, make your boundaries (again, Monogomy). Be clear that she needs to leave if she does not honor them. You will accept no alternative. You respect yourself too much to continue a life like this.

Start gathering evidence now. She is honestly a serial adultress. That does not look favorably to anyone.