Your wife is getting high on being a predator now I think... Has she commetned on this guy's gf at all? Shown any remorse there?
All she said to him when he commented on "how he wasn't sure he wanted to marry her" was:
"Don't do it unless you are ABSOLUTELY sure!!!!! I made a very very bad decision about that, and now 7 years later I feel like all that time was wasted. Don't do it unless you KNOW!!!"
Then they proceeded to get right down to how "hot" each other was, and then talk GRAPHICALLY about their sexual fantasies and what they would do to each other.
He made references that his girlfriend would NEVER do to him what my wife said she would and he ALSO said:
"You could be the fun and spice I was looking for now"
The she replied "OH HELL YES!!!!!"
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
OK, that's the crappiest advice I have ever heard :
1. There is NO WAY to be SURe.. sorry, no one has a crystal ball for marriage 2. Seven years she COULD be learning from but is CHOOSING to ignore and walk down this ridiculous path...
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More to teh point... I am starting to wonder now if your wife isn't just enjoying herself being provocative online here.. she may have alluded to cheating, but she may just be lying to excite him. There are a lot of women that enjoy being provocative on the phone or the internet but you get the in person and you realize they are ALL TALK ...
A lot of young girls are like that... they just enjoy playing the provocative tease... We are ASSUMING at the moment that her physical presense woudl match her internet persona and that has'nt been confirmed...
I am wondering that she may be all talk here..
I am NOT saying that she's not dangerous or seriously ill... Just want to put some breaks on here a bit...
We don't know how FAR she is willing to go in person... so lets not draw any serious conclusions yet...
SHe's spiraling downward and is seriously ill either way, AND dangerous to marriages at this point...
Yeah, but she doesn't want HIS help, so IMHO he needs to get a safe distance from this. Preferably in a bunker somewhere.
Yup TH, this is for QS to decide on... But this woman is on a downward spiral...
QS she's NOT headed anywhere good... if she starts sleeping with married men and trashing engagements or marriages she could end up with a knife in her back... This woman's a damn fool...
if you just collect every piece of INTEL you have up and march to her mother's house and drop it inher lap what on earth do you think is giong to result from that?
Right now from what you write I can't see her mother dealing very well with it all.. She's too timid just like her daughter.. when you drop reality and serious problems in her motehrs lap she just ended up bailing on you didn'dt she?
SHe bailed on you just like her daughter's doing...
I am not saying outright don't do it but I am thinknig it through ahead of time to assess the likelyhood that it will result in something you will be GLAD you DID...
This is NOT something you can take back... So you really need to walk through it to assess the most liekly outcome before doing it...
I just can't see that going the route you want it to...
a. Either the mother will turn a blind eye to it all and ask you to leave b. The mother will out you to her daughter and your wife will rage on you again and your intel system is blown completley...
I dunno... I can't see this happening :
a. Mother sees tihe light, hops up and calls her D demanding she go to family tehrapy and act her age b. Daughter ends all internet activity and agrees to end promiscuous activities
I wonder if I should just go MAD - Mutually Assured Destruction. I may seem like a "psycho" in the end, but what the Hell do I have to lose? Just launch my whole arsenal of ordinance and level the entire galaxy.
Just print EVERYTHING out I can and take it to her parents and tell them she has a serious sexual addiction. She views REALLY GRAPHIC porn sites, sex chats with a few guys, is going to have phone sex and take nude pictures, she has pursued a MARRIED GUY, a guy that wanted to USE AND ABUSE HER, and now a guy with a GIRLFRIEND.
She is also LURING a younger guy into her apartment, while RIGHT NOW planning phone sex and whatever else with guy # 4.
Some of the fantasies she talks about aren't all that great. How many more guys is is going to take before she ends up maybe hurt, pregnant, or with an STD?
And in her chat last night she alluded to she was "unfaithful". And she TALKED about some "things" she liked to do, LIKE SHE HAS JUST DONE THEM RECENTLY AND ENJOYED THEM. So I USED to think the affairs were only ONLINE, but there MAY have been some PHYSICAL too.
If you are going to do this, you may as well have some professionals suggest that she has the addiction...
