Thank you for your kinds words. Funny thing is that at this point in my life I am a little less concerned about my M and more concerned about the people involved. Most notably ME and my kids.
If my M goes down the shi*ter, I know I did all that I could with the TOOLS that I had at the time. BUT as the good Lord says...everything happens for a reason..everything happens in his time.
I came here totally broken and f'd up. I can now stand up and say...
I am nice guy I love myself I am funny I am hard worker I am a great dad I am a good looking guy I am compassionate I am loving I am sexy I am kind I really care about people I love deeply I am emotional I am REAL I know who I am and I no longer need anyone to validate that.
I agree with my Bro Grit...I am not hear to tell you want to do with your M. You know yourself better than anyone (right?).
What I want sooo much for you to get is this...know who you really are. Get to a place where YOU no longer rely on a M or an R to define who you are, to validate who you are. You just need to know it sweetie. If say you do then that's good enough for me.
If you feel your H is ready and has done the work on himself and his issue well then that is good enough for me.
Fear and fustration should never drive your decisions. They should always be made in LOVE. True love. A love that respects and understands that everyone must find their own way. A love the understands that our wishes are just that ours and not anothers.
Once again as the good Lord would say...
Love is kind Love is patient Love is long suffering Love never fails Love conquers all (FTR I have this tattooed on my arm)
ITay, if things turn for the worse do not be embarrassed to come back here. We are all here for you.
I will leave you with this....Know who YOU are sweetie...Know it and live it. Do not try and go back to something because it is familiar, or because you lack emotional and physical attention. Go back because you love it for what it is and who it is.
If you ever need to talk know that I am here. You know how to reach me.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
