Im just trying to figure out how I can live with this person as things stand now.
It's not possible that's why you can't figure it out. Will you ever feel loved or be happy if she is with another man?
Well, I long had little problem with her being with another guy. Its not that at all. Its how she is treating me. She says that the fire has died due to our baggage. Not because of the other guy. And we have a fair bit of baggage to be sure. But having to compete with this "perfect" guy has caused a lot of the damage to this marriage.
Can I feel loved if she is with him. Sure. As long as she is "loving".
She says she does the best she can do by me. And says she loves me. If I can stop poking at trying to fix things right now.
