If you think you can trust OM's gf BLIND then go for it... make sure you tell her to keep the info to herself and not disclose her source!
That's the thing. This is a crapshoot. Just think if back in May some guy contacted me and said "hey your wife is sex chatting it up and sending nude pics to some dude"
But I feel HORRIBLE for her and think she has a right to know. I mean the bastard said "Yeah I don't know if I will marry her, but she is good for now".
I am just wondering if there is another way to do this WITHOUT compromising my intel.
Just think if I exposed her coworker guy. I'd have blown the intel wide open, and then never found out about this guy.
Honestly, what would YOU do Allen, Puppy?
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
If you think you can trust OM's gf BLIND then go for it... make sure you tell her to keep the info to herself and not disclose her source!
That's the thing. This is a crapshoot. Just think if back in May some guy contacted me and said "hey your wife is sex chatting it up and sending nude pics to some dude"
But I feel HORRIBLE for her and think she has a right to know. I mean the bastard said "Yeah I don't know if I will marry her, but she is good for now".
I am just wondering if there is another way to do this WITHOUT compromising my intel.
Just think if I exposed her coworker guy. I'd have blown the intel wide open, and then never found out about this guy.
Honestly, what would YOU do Allen, Puppy?
QuickSilver264,
Sounds bad. You are lucky you have people who are willing to be forthcoming of information. In mine, no one said a single word. I didn't know for sure until she had a falling out of one of her female friends.
Have someone else who can post on the FB page from a different state on an unsecure router? I ask, because the FIRST THING my WH's OW did when she got my email was contact the police and have them trace my IP#.
Don't know all the variables at play with your peeps, but just want to throw it out there that it needs to be an unsecure router (McDonalds has free wireless access; just check their website to find locations all over the States). Otherwise, if the police get involved, it could easily get traced back to you. If you have a friend or relative near the state where this new OM is and they trace the IP to a public location, no one will suspect you.
1) The FIRST exposure I had the nude pictures and the test message logs. No surprise there
2) The SECOND exposure with the Facebook guy the moron texted me so I had OUTSIDE EVIDENCE other than my intel. I showed her the TEXT MESSAGE, and watched her body language for lies. I then TRAPPED her with her OWN WORDS. I did not reveal ANY INSIDE intel AL ALL THERE. I played some GOOD POKER and just let her talk herself into a corner. BOOOOOM.
3) The coworker guy I did not expose, but am putting together a "portfolio" of intel to use as a "tactical missile" should I need it.
4) OK, in her mind there is NO POSSIBLE WAY I could know about this new guy (#4). She is in a HOTEL 200 miles away with only her phone and laptop. If I do let on I know, she will then know I still have access to the phone logs, and potentially her Facebook dealings.
5) She doesn't know I know about her new apartment. If I tip this hand I am dead in the water because she will likely completely shut down and possibly do something REALLY drastic.
I don't care what SHE does, but ruining a poor girl's hopes for marriage and kids is NOT OK!!!! That girl has a RIGHT to know. But I need to weigh the cost of it.
Maybe when this girl finds out about all this and throws this guy # 4 to the curb, then my wife will SEE what SHE is DOING to people's lives.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
QS... your wife won't grow up that fast... you getting #4 to the curb won't change that...
Your wife is playing poker with YOU...
She wants you to THINK
a. She's over you b. She isn't hurting at all c. She isn't scared d. She's got everything under control e. She isn't looking for a serious commitment she's just crusin for fun
All of the above are LIES...
She's DEEP in wayward land right now and spiraling downward VERY FAST...
What will wake her up? HER getting cheated on, used, and lied to.. THAT will do SOME damage...
You exposing others as creeps? That's just going to bounce off of her right now... Ten years from now she will see it, but no way is that gonna wake her up on its own right now...
Keep a portfolio on the new #4 guy, you can expose him at any time the more he talks about his gf the more condemned he is...
I am wondering if thre's a way to let this gf of his know just abotu HIS end of this wtihout your wife's info being mentioend at all... that way OM #4 will think someone is squaling on HIM on HIS end... ?
gf of OM #4 may either kick teh guy out OR she might want to keep him and threaten yoru wife... the latter would be BETTER
Your wife having some woman show up at her home spraypainting the door with nasty words on it might wake your wife up a bit that she's becoming an internet predator...
Which she IS... She's chatting up engagd men now... I imagine there are not a few women on this forum who would like to have a "chat" with your wife...
1) The FIRST exposure I had the nude pictures and the test message logs. No surprise there
2) The SECOND exposure with the Facebook guy the moron texted me so I had OUTSIDE EVIDENCE other than my intel. I showed her the TEXT MESSAGE, and watched her body language for lies. I then TRAPPED her with her OWN WORDS. I did not reveal ANY INSIDE intel AL ALL THERE. I played some GOOD POKER and just let her talk herself into a corner. BOOOOOM.
3) The coworker guy I did not expose, but am putting together a "portfolio" of intel to use as a "tactical missile" should I need it.
4) OK, in her mind there is NO POSSIBLE WAY I could know about this new guy (#4). She is in a HOTEL 200 miles away with only her phone and laptop. If I do let on I know, she will then know I still have access to the phone logs, and potentially her Facebook dealings.
5) She doesn't know I know about her new apartment. If I tip this hand I am dead in the water because she will likely completely shut down and possibly do something REALLY drastic.
I don't care what SHE does, but ruining a poor girl's hopes for marriage and kids is NOT OK!!!! That girl has a RIGHT to know. But I need to weigh the cost of it.
Maybe when this girl finds out about all this and throws this guy # 4 to the curb, then my wife will SEE what SHE is DOING to people's lives.
Her parents know about this ( nude pics, sex chats ) and know you are a supportive and loving husband and its STILL OK?
Your wife having some woman show up at her home spraypainting the door with nasty words on it might wake your wife up a bit that she's becoming an internet predator...
Well the OM and his GF live on the West Coast, so that isn't going to happen.
But a nice call or Facebook message from her would do quite nicely.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
