As Puppy chastised me, you should meet with a lawyer to educate yourself and be ready regardless. Also, it may take a couple tries to find one you mesh with. I think that is important.
I believe joint custody means sharing in decisions re education, medical, etc. There will be child support unless you share primary custody 50/50 as in the children are with you half the week.
Her lawyer will press for alimony because of your disparate incomes, but a friend of mine had that issue and she received only a small lump sum payment.
You sound detached but I know it is still hard. I'm clearly no expert on whether you should keep trying or not. For me, I did not and do not feel like I have tried everything yet and I need to know that I did.
I still can't believe she told you on Father's Day. That was cruel IMO. Makes me think she really wanted to make a statement or get a reaction.
So I can't offer much advice but I can offer support. You'll know what's best for you and the kids.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
