Add me to the list of folks you've helped...both on my thread and all over the bb!
Your vacation sounds great, although I tend to stress about all the planning and such...worry wart! Hope your D feels better soon.
So what are you doing with your hair? Somthing funky?
You know Ellie, just the other day CJ was talking RRSP's and just said "We'll have $XXXX by the time we retire".
I don't know that an elicited reassurance, or thought out response could have spoken more to my sense of security in this M.
I remember clearly when CJ and I became a "we"...I know some people hate this notion, but we ARE very similar in a variety of ways (interests, intellect, music, movies, politics etc)..
I remember the wonderful feeling of having a partner to the end. I caught a glimmer of that from his unconscious inclusion of me in that far distant future vision.
I think sometimes we look for the grand gestures and might miss the little signs that things are on track!
Quote: I agree that Dbing has lessened the bitterness that I could have felt thourhgout this whole thing. Before I discovered the book, I was angry and took every opportunity I could to lash out at H and tell him he was making a mistake...so attractive, huh??
After reading the book, I started trying the different behaviors and I know that is what put us on the road we are on righ now. We are not headed to reconciliation and may never be, but I know we will walk away from ths sitch as freinds and with a fond smile for all the good memories instead of bitternes for what could have been.
Make sense?? Dbing has helepd me realize I can only control my own behavior, not H's or anyone else's and that has given me such a calm sense of peace in my life!!!!!!
Indeed, that's the way I feel. Life's too short to carry around the corrosive burden of hatred, revenge and jealousy. Or even victimhood. Victimhood just drains us of creative, poisitive energy. And 'perpetual vicitms' are really rather unattractive!
Season's Greeting to everyone here, and I DO wish someone would visit my thread soon!
Livnlearn (Newbie piecer needs advice and encouragement)
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
Quote: So what are you doing with your hair? Somthing funky?
'Tis the season....maybe you should have gone crazy like I did!!!!!!! LOL!!!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
As my dear friend Sage told me - "Who WOULDN'T want to be in a rut?" Guess my hair is the last bastion of my boringness (actually, did shorten it by about 6 inches last year after the bomb, but it's still long and straight.) Hmmmm.... Ellie
Leaving for snowboarding, white Christmas, going to chase away all those blue memories of this time last year!! Love you all, I'll miss you, back in about 10 days.
Hi Ellie, I have been thinking abuot you and your nice White Christmas with your hubby! Hope you are having/have had a GREAT time. Could you please check in when you get a chance with my thread? Things are getting interesting. I know you won't even see this for about a week, but I thought I would post this while I am thinking about it. I think you are the main person from Piecing who posts over in MLC and I/we really appreciate your experienced perpsective.
Thanks a million. Happy New Year! S_G
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
Hi all - back from our "White Christmas" - it was beautiful and we had fun snowboarding. My toeside turns are improving! Kids didn't even fight on the long car trips!
H had already given me my "big" present of a treadmill, but surprised me with a beautiful pearl pendant necklace with matching earrings Better yet, he said he was happier than he had been in years
I think tomorrow is the one year anniversary of when I discovered his affair - hard to believe so much has transpired in one year - and SO glad to be where I am now, even if it took going through the fire to get here.
