Quote: I agree that Dbing has lessened the bitterness that I could have felt thourhgout this whole thing. Before I discovered the book, I was angry and took every opportunity I could to lash out at H and tell him he was making a mistake...so attractive, huh??
After reading the book, I started trying the different behaviors and I know that is what put us on the road we are on righ now. We are not headed to reconciliation and may never be, but I know we will walk away from ths sitch as freinds and with a fond smile for all the good memories instead of bitternes for what could have been.
Make sense?? Dbing has helepd me realize I can only control my own behavior, not H's or anyone else's and that has given me such a calm sense of peace in my life!!!!!!
Indeed, that's the way I feel. Life's too short to carry around the corrosive burden of hatred, revenge and jealousy. Or even victimhood. Victimhood just drains us of creative, poisitive energy. And 'perpetual vicitms' are really rather unattractive!
Season's Greeting to everyone here, and I DO wish someone would visit my thread soon!
Livnlearn (Newbie piecer needs advice and encouragement)
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
