Beyond Depression..but still a losing battle?

[Lucky11too]

All so true! haha, it definitely does put the pressure on to look good again all the time tho. =P

So I think I had my first breakthru yesterday (for myself). I had not talked to H since Monday when we had that final talk. In the past several months, we have talked (texted daily) at least in regards to S. I knew H was getting the next portion of his tattoo done yesterday(see this is why I think he is still mental too - what is with these tattoos?!) He finished up his arm piece (nautical theme) with a big ship on his upper arm. He sent me a pic text late afternoon after they had finished up the outlining. I vasalated back and forth about responding (not that I cared about it, but I'm not a confrontational person, so I didn't want to get into an argument about it.) I was still thinking about it, when I got another text that said "you don't like it?". I still had that same thought about not wanting to have a confrontation, but I said, enough is enough, so I need to be stronger. So, I didn't respond. Several hours later, the tattoo was finished with color, so he sent me the final pic. By this time, I was out with my girlfriends for coffee and feeling even stronger, so I just ignored it again. This was a super big breakthru for me, b/c it's the first time I've been able to completely ignore him. I've set this boundary now and I have to keep it! I know DB says about this technique, that if you say it, you have to be willing to follow thru with it or you lose all credibility. This is his choice, so he is going to have to live with the consequences - no me in his life! Luckily, he didn't try to call me or anything (that was a relief), so I think I was able to get my point across. Although it doesn't sound like much, for me, it was a great step in finally being able to detach and liberate myself from H's control. So we'll see what happens now...