I know exactly what your wife is doing. She is 'running', there is nothing you can do to make her stop. If there are some extremely painful or costly repurcussions, it may cause her to re-evaluate where she is at, she could come home then.
But for now, she's partying and enjoying life at full blast. She doesn't want to talk about anything too serious, or that makes her think.
What you can do... You can JOIN THE PARTY. It sounds like she's "going hard in the paint" every day, going after attention, doing all the crazy things her mind is thinking of - of course it can be ANY thing.
ANY THING goes right now, as these actions represent her freedom.
What you could do, is get yourself in there and JOIN THE PARTY yourself. Do the same thing. Not in a tit-for-tat basis, because once your doing it the significiance of her doing it will not be as strong.
I'm sure she's making new friends too, ones who enable how she is.
The strategy I'm thinking of is to get your party started up, and end up around or in some of her circles once you have gotten enough momentum.
I guess you start it up with some of your friends who do this, and after you get your momentum built up, end up around her circles. It won't be such a big deal once your doing the same thing.
Of course you have to be responsible enough to keep your job and to pay your bills and to handle any major responsibilities.
You are not going to stop her though. As long as you sit back at home, your boring. You know you can't get her to address her relationship with you - she's running from it!
I dunno, throwing one out there and I know its rather agressive.
She is running A hundred miles an hour in the wrong direction She is trying But the canyon's ever widening In the depths of her cold heart So she sets out on another misadventure just to find She's another two years older And she's three more steps behind
Does anybody hear her? Can anybody see? Or does anybody even know she's going down today Under the shadow of our steeple With all the lost and lonely people Searching for the hope that's tucked away in you and me Does anybody hear her? Can anybody see?
She is yearning For shelter and affection That she never found at home She is searching For a hero to ride in To ride in and save the day And in walks her prince charming And he knows just what to say Momentary lapse of reason And she gives herself away
Does anybody hear her? Can anybody see? Or does anybody even know she's going down today Under the shadow of our steeple With all the lost and lonely people Searching for the hope that's tucked away in you and me Does anybody hear her? Can anybody see?
If judgment looms under every steeple If lofty glances from lofty people Can't see past her scarlet letter And we've never even met her
If judgment looms under every steeple If lofty glances from lofty people Can't see past her scarlet letter And we've never even met her
Never even met her (Never Even Met her)
(OHHHHH)Does anybody hear her? Does anybody see? Or does anybody even know she's going down today Under the shadow of our steeple With all the lost and lonely people Searching for the hope that's tucked away in you and me
Does anybody hear her? (Does anybody hear her?) Does anybody see? (Does anybody See?) Does anybody even know she's going down today? Under the shadow of our steeple (shadow of her steeple) With all the lost and lonely people (Lost and Lonely people) Searching for the hope that's tucked away in you and me Does anybody hear her? Does anybody see?
He is running a hundred miles an hour in the wrong direction
This NEW guy lives out on the West coast and has a GIRLFRIEND. He SPECIFICALLY said in chats with my wife "he's not sure about her and if he wants to marry her".
Then he sex chatted with my wife, she gave him her phone number, and they texted. They are going to have phone sex tonight.
Doesn't she have a RIGHT to know they guy that supposedly "loves" her is stringing her along and CHEATING on her?
******Here is my MAIN concern. Since my wife is away, ANY exposure MAY VERY WELL blow my intel operation WIDE OPEN.
I mean just how would ANYONE know about this NEW guy?
Here is what I am thinking.
1) create an empty Facebook profile.
2) contact her with a message that says:
I have very solid information that your boyfriend is cheating on you. His phone number is XXX-XXX-XXXX. I believe you have a right to know what is going on, but I also must protect myself and my identity.
Should you wish to talk further, please message back this profile, and I can give you ANY information that you want, provided it does NOT compromise my identity.
I am so, so sorry that this is happening. I too have been through it, and you may very well be in shock right now and not believe it. But believe me, I simply would NOT contact you if I knew it to be otherwise.
I STRONGLY ask that you not react right now, nor CONFRONT him at this time. Doing so would make BOTH our situations MUCH worse.
Just ask yourself, how would I know his phone number, and then why would I contact you. Again, I am terribly sorry this is happening, but you do have a right to know.
3) Pray and pray that she does not go off the deep end and blow this open and confront him. Then HE AND MY WIFE know they are found out and can go underground.
NOW SHE IS MESSING WITH ANOTHER PERSONS RELATIONSHIP, AN INNOCENT GIRL WHO LOVES HER BASTARD BOYFRIEND
Any more suggestions? Does anyone think this is a HUGE gamble to take?
Last edited by Quicksilver264; 07/29/1003:59 PM.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
This NEW guy lives out on the West coast and has a GIRLFRIEND. He SPECIFICALLY said in chats with my wife "he's not sure about her and if he wants to marry her".
Then he sex chatted with my wife, she gave him her phone number, and they texted. They are going to have phone sex tonight.
Doesn't she have a RIGHT to know they guy that supposedly "loves" her is stringing her along and CHEATING on her?
******Here is my MAIN concern. Since my wife is away, ANY exposure MAY VERY WELL blow my intel operation WIDE OPEN.
I mean just how would ANYONE know about this NEW guy?
Here is what I am thinking.
1) create an empty Facebook profile.
2) contact her with a message that says:
I have very solid information that your boyfriend is cheating on you. His phone number is XXX-XXX-XXXX. I believe you have a right to know what is going on, but I also must protect myself and my identity.
Should you wish to talk further, please message back this profile, and I can give you ANY information that you want, provided it does NOT compromise my identity.
I am so, so sorry that this is happening. I too have been through it, and you may very well be in shock right now and not believe it. But believe me, I simply would NOT contact you if I knew it to be otherwise.
I STRONGLY ask that you not react right now, nor CONFRONT him at this time. Doing so would make BOTH our situations MUCH worse.
Just ask yourself, how would I know his phone number, and then why would I contact you. Again, I am terribly sorry this is happening, but you do have a right to know.
3) Pray and pray that she does not go off the deep end and blow this open and confront him. Then HE AND MY WIFE know they are found out and can go underground.
NOW SHE IS MESSING WITH ANOTHER PERSONS RELATIONSHIP, AN INNOCENT GIRL WHO LOVES HER BASTARD BOYFRIEND
Any more suggestions? Does anyone think this is a HUGE gamble to take?
QuickSilver264,
I don't think she really cares. She's having fun. You may do what you say you are going to do, but perhaps if you have a text dialogue from the boyfriend saying he has a girlfriend and is just pretty much playing with your wife, you may ensure that she "accidentally" gets this message.
If you cause the exposure she may look at it as you trying to prevent her from having her fun. It sounds like she's going to do it anyway whether its him or someone else.
I'm interested in your sitch, and it is rather "explosive" at how quickly it has turned.
