Ellie ~ I caught up on your story--it is an inspiration!!
I agree that Dbing has lessened the bitterness that I could have felt thourhgout this whole thing. Before I discovered the book, I was angry and took every opportunity I could to lash out at H and tell him he was making a mistake...so attractive, huh??
After reading the book, I started trying the different behaviors and I know that is what put us on the road we are on righ now. We are not headed to reconciliation and may never be, but I know we will walk away from ths sitch as freinds and with a fond smile for all the good memories instead of bitternes for what could have been.
Make sense?? Dbing has helepd me realize I can only control my own behavior, not H's or anyone else's and that has given me such a calm sense of peace in my life!!!!!!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
Morning all - up early with a sick child, so here I am with time on my hands. I'll be leaving Friday for vacation and will be off the boards for about 10 days as I don't think I'll have internet access while I'm gone. It will probably just about kill me with curiosity!
H and I plan to use some of this vacation time to do some future planning and prioritizing about work, our lives, finances etc. - gosh it feels good to both be pulling on the same end of that rope
Have a zillion things to do to wrap up Xmas before we leave Friday (we're having Xmas out of town) and my D having the flu will put a crimp in my schedule - I'm supposed to get my hair colored this morning - can't possibly make it through the holidays without it - but my mom is leaving for my sister's this morning, so I would have to leave D alone while I went to hairdressers - unfortunately, hairdresser now is 30 minutes away from my house. (She used to be right down the street when I first started with her). What to do......
Feel like I was able to help a couple of people elsewhere on the boards make positive steps yesterday - funny how clear things are to you after you've been through them, but how muddy they are when you are in the middle of it. I'm so grateful for all the people who helped me through those confused times.
I am sure looking forward to this Xmas being much better than the last! That's one of the reasons we're not having it at home this year - we wanted to escape from any reminders of those bad moments.
Who better for a sick child to be with than you - I am envious of your time away from it all and wish you the best vacation. Not only have you helped others yesterday you have helped me in the past too - Thanks again, Merry Christmas and have a great time.
Quote: "Feel like I was able to help a couple of people elsewhere on the boards make positive steps yesterday"
I can say without hesitation that I am one of those people. I wouldn't have had the successful evening I had last night w/o your help. You will be blessed for helping me and others as you have.
Hope your child gets well soon.
I'm happy that you and H will get some time away. I trust you'll have a wonderul time together.
I'm glad that I found your thread. I am 1 1/2 months into Dbing postbomb. I saw an immediate positive change with Db principles but I'm far from out of the woods. H is still talking D.
Your story inspired me and caused me to step back and reflect on my own positive progress and realize that I'm not going to wake up tomorrow with all this behind me. I've chosen to go down this very long road with many potholes!
You've helped me to regain my belief that I can do it too! Excuse me. I have to go put on my Wonder Woman outfit now. Here I go!
Thanks Ellie.
Christine
I am the master of creating positive energy and love in my own environment. I am the source of love in my life. It starts with me! This energy radiates from me! It gives me strength, courage, wisdom and grace!
I am the master of creating positive energy and love in my own environment. I am the source of love in my life. It starts with me! This energy radiates from me! It gives me strength, courage, wisdom and grace!
Hi Ellie! I will be away starting on Sat and I think the curiousity will kill me too...think of all we'll have to read when we get back!!!
Have a wonderful holiday...I am so glad you are making new traditions!!!!!!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
