Well you gave her a chance to end it, she said NO, that's fine, give her what she wants, if she wants the OM, tell her she can have him, you won't stand in her way and then you tell her to move out the way I laid it out for you in the previous post and tell her on top of that, that you BOTH will sit the kids down and tell them what's happening with the two of you separating and her moving out and again she moves out: if she wants the freedom to have an affair and pursue a relationship with the OM, she can do it while living elsewhere, you won't allow that to happen in your home where you & your kids live, its disrespectful to you & them. She's an adult, she wants all this freedom, you won't stand in her way, you'll help her pack if she needs the help and even put the boxes on the moving truck for her, this won't be a slow move either, this needs to happen within a few weeks, no time like the present.
