this thread is like my journal for the number of unwanted emails, text msgs, and phone calls that i get.
got another email last night. i mentioned that this started out as a business meeting. well, guess what angle he is trying to use to get me to respond? "we are submitting your cv to the client. any last minute words of wisdom or thoughts?"
Dumped ~ I sort of skimmed through this thread and may have missed it - if so, sorry - but have you directly addressed this person's behavior with him? What were the words you used, if so? Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
I sort of skimmed through this thread and may have missed it - if so, sorry - but have you directly addressed this person's behavior with him? What were the words you used, if so?
i said that i was obviously not ready for a relationship. but maybe we could be friends. i figure giving him that we can be friends speech was a hint. boy was i wrong.
he responded with "hey, i'm not asking you to be my girlfriend. i was just thinking we can hang out as friends and see where it goes."
see where it goes?
so i said "well, i have to put that out there. because i don't want to lead you on. that's not something i do."
he responded with "chillax .. it's all good".
then he proceeded to tell me how he thought i was cute. he liked my eyes and my smile.
then he asked me what i thought about him and whether he was what i envisioned in my sleep. *gag* i paused. then i just said "no, you're a lot broader than i thought".
that was the last i ever texted.
then he replied at 5:30 am "broader? that's because i'm a real man. :)". i ignored.
at 8:30 am i get a text "wake up sunshine!". i ignored. at 9:00 am "hope you have a great day!". i ignored.
i had a kitchen design appointment. he said "how's the design appointment going with Mr. Hottie?" like wtf? this is a design appointment, not a date. i ignored.
then i get emails and i got a text the other night "where did ya disappear to?" cuz i stopped responding to all forms of communication.
So if I was in your shoes, and the texting and email persisted AND IT WAS BOTHERING ME...I would write "Guy, thanks for all of the attention, but I do not like the frequency of texts and email. Please, stop altogether."
Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
So if I was in your shoes, and the texting and email persisted AND IT WAS BOTHERING ME...I would write "Guy, thanks for all of the attention, but I do not like the frequency of texts and email. Please, stop altogether."
I know you haven't read all this thread Greek, (having a nice vacation I hope), but I posted this link about thwarting potential stalkers.
I agree that she may need to directly say 'stop' to this guy, but I would NOT thank him for the attention nor say anything which suggests it is simply the frequency which is the problem.
He may just be clueless and annoying, but there is also a chance he could be dangerous. Better to err on the side of caution IMO.
i'd like to consider this thread dormant for now. i asked puppy for his input only because he has the most experience in dealing with sitchs.
as he had pointed out earlier, my original thread is long and i do have some really good advice that is helping me focus on me.
i've stopped "handwaving" and will work with the vets who have been with me from the very beginning. i find that too much advice tends to confuse me as everyone has an opinion. i learned that the hard way and it actually isn't helpful to me.
P.S. the emails & texts have stopped. i think he got the picture.
