I know exactly what your wife is doing. She is 'running', there is nothing you can do to make her stop. If there are some extremely painful or costly repurcussions, it may cause her to re-evaluate where she is at, she could come home then.
But for now, she's partying and enjoying life at full blast. She doesn't want to talk about anything too serious, or that makes her think.
What you can do... You can JOIN THE PARTY. It sounds like she's "going hard in the paint" every day, going after attention, doing all the crazy things her mind is thinking of - of course it can be ANY thing.
ANY THING goes right now, as these actions represent her freedom.
What you could do, is get yourself in there and JOIN THE PARTY yourself. Do the same thing. Not in a tit-for-tat basis, because once your doing it the significiance of her doing it will not be as strong.
I'm sure she's making new friends too, ones who enable how she is.
The strategy I'm thinking of is to get your party started up, and end up around or in some of her circles once you have gotten enough momentum.
I guess you start it up with some of your friends who do this, and after you get your momentum built up, end up around her circles. It won't be such a big deal once your doing the same thing.
Of course you have to be responsible enough to keep your job and to pay your bills and to handle any major responsibilities.
You are not going to stop her though. As long as you sit back at home, your boring. You know you can't get her to address her relationship with you - she's running from it!
I dunno, throwing one out there and I know its rather agressive.
