How To Tell The Kids

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The fact that you refused to leave your home and children because of your w's issues demonstrates strength to you children.

children are smart and they understand the deal to some point. you refused to allow the problems with your wife interfer with that relationship, thumbs up.

mine has pretty much treated the kids and relationship as a revolving door. I've drafted something for him having to do with transportation, childcare and money. it's very lengthy but would like an opinion.

H the next pieces of information have been carefully thought out and are in the best interests of the children. I’m sure you will agree that they come first and foremost in any and all situations. Granted some of the things both you and I must do for them may cause us some inconvenience, juggling schedules, and what have you, but they have suffered long enough.
The goal here is to maintain d and s's lifestyle, schedule just as if we were together. They do not need to get the short end of the stick since you chose to abandoned this family.

Our children will no longer be exposed to riding the bus system. It is not in their best interests.

As their father you will arrive at our home no later than 6:00AM Monday - Friday, excluding holidays, so I can catch the 6:30 bus to work. You will care for the children until both d and s have breakfast in their home, are bathed-if needed, dressed, and ready to go. After they are ready you will transport them with their car seats (until you purchase new approved car seats & submit a copy of the receipt to me)to your home in which they will remain in your sole care until you are required to work.
Any vehicle they are transported in will have state mandated insurance and the driver will have a valid driver's license. If you are unable or unwilling to obtain insurance, there are options available, we as their parents need to work together on it for their safety, well being, being good lawful role models for our children.
Option 1-you obtain state mandated provable insurance for the truck and occupants in your household
Option 2 – Truck transferred to my name and I place insurance on it for all drivers in my home
Option 3- unable to discuss at this time
You will need to be available over the next few weeks, to transport s to my work so I can feed him on demand since he is a breast fed baby who has rejected the bottle. Every three hours he must eat 4-7 ounces of breast milk, failure to do so will be harmful for his growth and cause health problems and he may fail to thrive.
Every 3 hours I will get an update as to his eating habits via telephone call to -. Every 1-2 hours s will have his diaper visibly checked to insure he is not wet or soiled his diaper. You and your mother will be provided documentation to fill out when he poops and pees along with the date and time.
After my work day I will need to be picked up to prevent and to reduce the time the children have away from me and transported to our home. To ensure they are returned to their home to eat dinner, bathe if necessary, complete our bed time routines, do chores, etc.
Remember the goal here have the least amount of disruption to their lifestyle, schedule, way of life consistent with what they would have grown up in had you not abandoned us; to give our children consistency, a routine and schedules.
Financial:

h you as THE NON-CUSTODIAL parent, thinks that:

If I don’t get what I want from the custodial parent, it’s ok to withhold a support payment.

Sorry, but this is not OK. It is a privilege and a responsibility to take care of your child’s emotional and financial needs. Re: http://familysupportcenter.maricopa.gov/tiesandknots/PQ.html
Based upon state child support guidelines our adjusted gross income is well over $Xamount , and for 2 children to be raised by both parents as if we were together, the cost to raise them is $x amount, that amount is based upon a % and does not include cost of healthcare. A fair amount for you to pay is $200 a week, to be paid each Monday via deposit into a bank account.
$800 total.
-160 (I directly pay your mother weekly $40) -$250 health care which I pay directly) which leaves only $x amount that you are actually paying for child support to me. That is a deal. If we went to court it would be more.

now to let youknow why i'm court shy is due to prior marriage, had custody trial i was not represented with an attorney, decision did not go well at all. this is my biggest fear. not well in the sense that h had attorney that was friends with the judge, exh got costody and i ended uppaying child support. judeges words' i don't doubt the love mom has for child, but her character something like that.