Ellie ~ I caught up on your story--it is an inspiration!!
I agree that Dbing has lessened the bitterness that I could have felt thourhgout this whole thing. Before I discovered the book, I was angry and took every opportunity I could to lash out at H and tell him he was making a mistake...so attractive, huh??
After reading the book, I started trying the different behaviors and I know that is what put us on the road we are on righ now. We are not headed to reconciliation and may never be, but I know we will walk away from ths sitch as freinds and with a fond smile for all the good memories instead of bitternes for what could have been.
Make sense?? Dbing has helepd me realize I can only control my own behavior, not H's or anyone else's and that has given me such a calm sense of peace in my life!!!!!!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
