One last thing..I want to live my life with NO drama..I want to enjoy every second I have with my children and I want to enjoy my life and the stress and the strain that this has put on my life is no longer worth it anymore. I did let him know last week that he is driving our family into the ground and I am picking up the peices once and for all. I have so many goals and hopes and dreams for my family and I am not letting anyone get in my way. I am taking control of my life because I am not letting this affect my family anymore...Life is too short to live this way and be manipulated and controlled by this. It is a toxic situation. She has told me multiple times that she would leave us alone...always to come back to him and then tell me it is him...I think if a married man with kids was coming to me I would say umm no you are married...just my two cents!