An interesting thing happened the other day. My W went to work and I got home expecting to see my MIL watching my son. Her two sisters were there instead. They were very nice and asked how I was doing with all of this. We talked for a bit and I mentioned that I just want to physically separate from W because she was dating and it’s hard living in the same home. Her older sister looked at me in disbelief and said “I thought you were dating”. I told her that I’m in no position to start dating and I would never do that while living together. She had no idea that my W was actually dating. She was very angry and couldn’t believe that W was doing what she was doing.
I apologized to sisters because I thought they knew. They said they didn’t agree with what she was doing and she is making a huge mistake. That was nice to hear but I didn’t want to bring them in the middle of things. It was interesting to hear though how W has spun things to make her look like the victim. Her family has been very supportive of me through all of this and they made it crystal clear that they don’t want to lose me in the D.
I thought you had already exposed to them. Good for you on how you handled it, FFH. No matter how one feels about the whole "Expose, or NOT Expose?" debate, you should certainly never LIE to cover up a cheating spouse's affair, and it's certainly OK to "play defense" if the accusation gets turned on YOU, that YOU are the one cheating.
Get ready for blowback today from your wife. Remember your response:
"I decided that I'm no longer willing to lie to cover up your affair. I respect your sisters, and felt they had a right to know the truth. And HOW DARE YOU tell them that I was the one cheating!!!" Shake your head, add in a disgusted "Unbelievable," and then either walk out or end the phone conversation.
