dont let HIS words define how you feel about yourself. MAJOR pithole.
I was talking about exactly this point with the counselor today. People who say about your sitch "These things just happen" or one friend who I thought was smarter "You have to listen to what he's saying" and my own father "We know why he left, so stop wondering about it: hell fell in love with somebody else".
When your whole world has been turned upside down and you are left wihtout an "explanation" it's hard to not 'buy' in to what the WAS says and projects to the world about why they left, even if you reckon you know what REALLY happened.
