I am torn tonight about respecting WH's feelings (about wanting another life with another person in another country) and what I see as his responsibilties (putting his 'feelings" aside and being a responsible adult). Maybe sending money for his child and seeing her once a year is 'responsible' enough?
Respecting, torn .... Hmmm, Piano, I have been reading on and off, just wanted to say something here: you dont have to respect his decision or agree with it, you can only accept it. That's it. You dont have a choice unless you want to keep yourself in an unhealthy situation, mentally. It is a hard pill to swallow but you have to, we all have/had to at some point.
Also, his harsh words:God those are SCRIPT. I still cant get over my H's words "you are the worst thing that happened to me, etc etc..." while he was CRAZY in love with OW. 2 years later "those were just crap, BS, never believed those etc etc"... So, dont let HIS words define how you feel about yourself. MAJOR pithole. I fell into it deep, took me a year to start getting what had happened.
Stay strong, break unhealthy thinking routines. Keep walking, K
