I'm as skeptical as the next guy, and was one of the original "wet-blankets" to post thusly above. But in re-reading ltay's description of the events, I'm not seeing any "ultimatum" or "control" here:
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Friday I decided to tell my H that I couldn't go on this way and ask him what he wanted to do about it. I needed to have things change, I just couldn't keep obsessing, crying, hoping, talking, etc about all of it. My friends and family were wanting the old me back and I was just tired. I was stuck and the GAL thing wasn't happening. So, I just let go..I was ready to accept his answer to be done and move on. When i said that to him on friday night, he said what I thought he would say..ya, this isn't working for me either, i'm not happy, we need to go our separate ways. I said ok, we'll sit down and divide things up on paper in the morning over coffee and be done then. Then I went to my room and read. Saturday morning, we did just that. I was crying cuz it was sad, but stuck it out. Then Saturday night we had a glass of wine and talked. I asked him why he never tried. I just wanted to know. We ended up talking for 2 hours and at the end he surprised me by saying,"What kinds of things did you want me to do to "try"" and then.."Well, why don't you let me think about all this over night". I honestly wasn't sure what to say.
(all emphasis mine)
HE asked HER what it would take, and she told him. How is that an "ultimatum"???
The way I see it, this was more of the "Let them Go" approach that Robx and Gucci have been preaching (to largely deaf ears) over in Newcomers for so long, than an ultimatum.
But I DO remain skeptical, mostly of the transparency "plan".
