Your extremely reactive reply shows that you remain her emotional punching bag, even when she's not punching. You aren't detached, she mostly is. You really are the one flailing about right now. Understandable as it is, she is not responsible for it, nor for helping you work through things. Vent and flail with an IC, not with someone who wants no personal R with you. Quit trying to work out the problems in your M during D proceedings. There is no R to work out anymore. D is business. NB offers you excellent advice.
