Her: The thing on DD's finger is a wart and I bought the medicine at the pharmacy for her (I'll keep a running record of what I've paid toward her doctor appointments and medicines if you like.)
I did tell them not to shut the water off. Obviously there was some mistake. Anyway, I asked you to change the accounts back in April.
What an easy, reasonable gal, huh? She could be a clone of my H- so "easy" and "polite". Jesus she is a brat, isn't she? Somehow I missed what your email to her was- got lost in all the movie/dating talk, etc. But hers is a piece of work.
Originally Posted By: ImprovedRomeo
Fine, you can skip the school party if you like as that's up to you. I'm having her party at xyz and I'm assuming you're talking about xyz Farm at the xyz?
Listen, I've already missed my open enrollment so if you take me off then I cannot get on as I don't have a qualifying event. Also, if you want to play around with who is supposed to pay what or who owes more we can go on about that forever. We've both carried one another during certain times so I don't see the need to be picky over it now (seeing as how I kept you on my health care plan from the time we were married until you actually got benefits by working for xyz.) That would be probably 5 years or so. Anyway, since none of this is discoverable in court, maybe you should talk to your counsel about it instead of me.
OMG, H could've totally written that. As you know I have to be careful, but I made a comment to him about something similar I did for him and his reply was "anyone would do that." Well, no, some people leave their spouses when times get tough, ahem, and I chose not to. It's convenient to bring up when it backs up whatever their argument of the day is, though! And I love how they imply that we're petty or "keeping score", etc. but also do that when it suits them- here is the passive-aggressive you and I have discussed. Amazing. It's like trying to reason with a sack of cement. Except that would be easier.
Originally Posted By: ImprovedRomeo
It's funny how she talks about being picky and then she asks me for $50 phone bills when I'm paying her thousands in temp support. And she's equating things when we were married with now that we're getting divorced! I need a Gucci Loafer response for her!
Yeah. "funny". Ok, I'm not GL or Robx. Not sure what they'd say (they may not know about your increasing detachment so may not have visited in awhile ;-)
One option is for you to stop the emailing about anything financial/legal whatsoever. Do not enter into any discussion about who did what when, etc. unless it concerns DD's welfare or some bill that has your name on it that you will be in trouble if you don't pay. She wants you to reimburse her for something? Fine, send it through her L. Etc. You will send an itemized list to her through her L when it's all said and done. Just do not respond. That is what I've done, and boy does it make them mad, but it's also dropping the rope. They have nothing to "play" with (i.e., our emotions and advantage of our love for them) if there's no response. And you know it goes nowhere anyway, right? Remember that list Alice gave you way back about the components that should go into your emails and those that should be removed? Wanna check it out again? I can't put it as eloquently as she .
Another option is to respond but do not respond to any baiting, emotion, he said/she said, etc. Just "yes, it's a good idea for both of us to account for all expenses. I will do what I'm legally required to re: the insurance." period. that's it. Robot. But adult.
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