I think most of us have been where you are man... Its high school all over again and the gossip and rumours are flying about...
You aren't doing it, its your wife and you just have to trust public opinion...
These "supportive" people can tell her to get away from you but if she ends up moving out they will find she is in the same psychotic mindset months afterwards.
There will be a novelty period if she moves out but it won't last...
You just have to trust that people WORTH your consideration won't judge you harshly and that those who do aren't worth your consideration.
You are doing the right thing dude... no one said it will make you popular, especially among the uneducated and the jeuvenile...
We have all been there, or at least most of us... no one likes smear campaigns...
You said you were having a party there in a few weeks... that should boost public opinion a bit...
Well folks, we might, maybe, just be onto GUY NUMBER 4.
Apparently she "reconnected" with ANOTHER "old friend" and the two chatted (and are still chatting). And not 15 min into the conversation she tells him how "gorgeous" his pictures are.
And he mentions how "unhappy" he is with his girlfriend, and tells her how "hot" she is.
Long story short, she is now progressively getting more suggestive in the conversation, and is baiting him into a sex chat and god else knows what.
Like, seriously 20 min now into the conversation she she's telling him about her sexual fantasies. And she hasn't talked to this guy in YEARS.
WOW. I go out to see a movie, and come home to this. WOW.
What the Hell is wrong with her?
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
WOW. I just never realized the depths of depravity a spouse can reach. A regular chat turns into a 1 hour sex chat that turns into her giving him her phone number for phone sex, after not having talked to him for like years and years.
And tomorrow night all the fun begins in her hotel room for phone sex.
Maybe she is just coming into her own sexually, or who knows WHAT ELSE.
And this guy has a GIRLFRIEND too. So now she goes after married and TAKEN guys.
OK so she told me the marriage was over and she's in a hotel 200 miles away. BUT COME ON, REALLY?
I am so done that it isn't even funny. When this all comes crashing down around her, THIS man here is going to be FAR away from it all.
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Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
QS, this isn't about sex - it's about her DESPERATELY needing to feel validated as a desirable woman, and she's going about it in disasterous, immature way.
A LOT of teenage girls do this. They hit puberty, get lots of attention from guys, and start sleeping around, thinking they're "all that," that every guy who sees them is dying for love for them. Their egos are boundless and any snide remarks are met with, "You're just jealous." Yet ask those same guys who love em and leave em if they'd ever take that girl home to meet their mothers, and they'll all say, "Are you crazy? I only introduce my mother to 'nice' girls."
This is so, so sad. I honestly think she needs help. She's jeapordizing both her health and her reputation.
This isnt' about sex at all I agree with SR.. QS she's USING sex to get attention... what she's looking for who knows... But sex isn't a safe tool to find it...
She's wanting something else from these guys - attention, flattery, popularity... who knows... but offering sex in exchange for this isnt' healthy for her physically or mentally.. This is how STD's get passed around.
The really odd thing is that BEFORE she started this sex chat with this guy she did 45 min MORE of SEARCHES for:
"How to tell if a guy likes you online"
"How to tell if he likes you"
and a TON more like that.
Then she friended him and he IMs her.
And then the chat leads into how "she's BECOME such a sexual person" how "she has fantasies of her own now".
So she goes from searching for "how to get your roommate into bed" to sex chatting with a guy you JUST STARTED TALKING TO after YEARS AND YEARS.
I know women hit their sexual peak around 30, which she has. But she REALLY is going at this hard.
I think she is much too far gone to ever save this marriage. I mean she has 3 weeks in August she is away to sex chat, phone sex, and Skype with him and any other guy. And she won't be in the house, so what really do I have to say about it?
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
Dude, your wife has a lot of growing up to do.. Can you even think about trusting her?
Lets look at this situation. She's made a commitment to move in with some guy.
He's gonig to move in there and they will be in the same place together while she's pursuign him... NOW she's ALREADY got some other guy on the SIDE in SECRET?
I think we both know who will be cheating on who first in that living arrangement don't we?
SH'es ALREADY CHEATING ON HIM and she hasn't even MOVED IN there YET...
You need to stop thinking sexual peak.. tha'ts not what's going on here.. this is NOT sexual peak activity...
This is mentally unstable activity dude...
Very immature and destructive...
Sexual peak doens't mean ABANDON ALL SENSE OF DECENCY and SOUND LOGIC
She's not dealing with her divorce well at all that's clear
She's feeling the void of your absense and destructive about filling it with ANYTHING...
Pathetic I know...
Your wife is going to need to start planning family eventually... what kind of mother do you think she's gonna make right now?
Wow... She SHOULD be working on maturing her life and make it more stable but insteaad she's gonig off the deep end...
