Wife just texted me at 11:45pm out of nowhere and I can tell she's drunk just by the writing...
"Sooooo are you going to sign the papers?"
This is a dissolution, not a subpoena... I actually was going to sign them 2 days ago AND told her that in writing and over text.
She NEVER SHOWED!
Is she picking a fight? Is she with her boy toy? How do I read this?
I'm seriously starting to think she is going crazy. She changes her stories and asks the same questions when she's already gotten the answers. Please advise on how to handle this.
Wife just texted me at 11:45pm out of nowhere and I can tell she's drunk just by the writing...
"Sooooo are you going to sign the papers?"
This is a dissolution, not a subpoena... I actually was going to sign them 2 days ago AND told her that in writing and over text.
She NEVER SHOWED!
Is she picking a fight? Is she with her boy toy? How do I read this?
I'm seriously starting to think she is going crazy. She changes her stories and asks the same questions when she's already gotten the answers. Please advise on how to handle this.
Have you taken the papers to your attorney for the once over?
I don't want you signing anything unless it is heavily tilted in your favor.
If you have the papers in your possession, I'd pay the 250 bucks to get the opinion of a good attorney on them, and you can put an attorney on retainer and draft something better if you need to.
Otherwise, ignore her. Let your attorney talk to her attorney.
I signed my wife's dissolution agreement after my attorney made modifications (she basically got nothing out of me), had them notarized and shipped over to her attorney all within about 3 days of her attorney having a draft ready.
You have to decide what is right in your case. My wife was pressing very hard for divorce, so I just decided... "fine, then let's do this so that I can get on with my life".
Later today we are going on a "date".
Go figure.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
I don't think an attorney is necessary. AK is a 50% state, so everything gets split. We both agreed to sell the house, she gets one ATV I keep the other. She bought a new vehicle, but my truck is paid for. I'm not really worried about an attorney because she and I can't afford one. IF the OM or Family wants to foot a lawyer for her, which I doubt would happen, I would be able to "Charge" for a lawyer.
What I'm not understanding is why she texted me that question? When she knows I was going to sign 2 days ago and never showed. It's a very confusing text.
If she wants this so bad, I was ready to sign. Why ask again?! I'm still not very happy, but I'm trying to move on AND to give her what she wants...but then she doesn't take the opportunity.
I just don't get it...hoping anyone might have some insight on this.
P.s. I think she has some big issues going on in her head whether it's an affair or some type MLC/Menopause thing or both. Is this even possible?
If she wants this so bad, I was ready to sign. Why ask again?!
Why ask why? Really, you get to a point where you are tired of trying to figure out why they do what they do.
One thing is certain: If they wanted to be with you, they would be, right?
That mind reading stuff doesn't work.
For example:
1. Speculate she's testing you to see if you get upset. What does this mean? That she wants control? That she's poking you because she's miserable and blames you?
2. She is seeing if you given up? Does this mean there is hope? Or does it mean she is just bored and addicted to the drama?
4, 5, 6 ... 9999.
It goes on and on, and it's just you spinning your wheels in the end. If you want to know something, when they say something, ask. Otherwise, diregard and continue on.
But don't waste a lot of time trying to figure it out by reading her mind. It's pointless.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
I really need to control this crap getting to me. It's not good. Doesn't show self control or detachment.
Okay, guess it's time to stand back up, knock the dust off, and keep moving forward.
I'm going to try a Nicotine patch tomorrow and go to the gym. I'm sick of feeling out of shape and weak. Went to the store and picked up some healthy food. Appetite isn't at 100%, so I need to force myself to eat better.
So I signed the papers last night. Of course I had to be a moron and open my mouth, she got pissed and said I'll never change. all I do is BLAH BLAH BLAH (lol, she's right), and I wound up showing her the door. Texted stupid comments and then BAM I realized the a$$ I have turned into.
I know everyone told me what to do, everyone told me what NOT to do, and my stupid a$$ did it again.
Sent her an apology this morning for being an a$$hole this morning and I understand why she feels the way she does. Told her to take care.
You know, can you sink any lower than this? I guess on a positive note I realize how much work I have to do to myself to really become a better person and to regain my self control and respect. It's sad and makes me upset, but I have no place but up from now. Just really want to forgive myself and do what's right from here forward.
Anyone else not getting it out there? Because I'm living proof what NOT to do.
Oh, I'm not getting it either Faith. I've made so many mistakes in DBing, that I'm starting to fit my handle. Cut yourself some slack though, this is a horrific midterm. The final gets even tougher. There's a reason it's called fighting for her.
Well, looks like this sitch just keeps rolling my nose in it...
I can't believe what I'm about to write. Can't friggin believe it!
Wife just calls me and tells me that her truck was broken into last night and that someone stole her purse which had the Dissolution papers in it.
Now she texts me and says we need to fill it out again tonight and says she won't be a B$%ch again! I told her I didnt mean to turn her into one. She writes back "you are not at fault"....Um ok..
Good friggin grief! What is this? God letting me have a 2nd chance to do it right or just a another turn in my nightmare.
I took advantage of the "2nd chance" by being polite, not bringing up the relationship, and not asking any questions. Finished the D papers and that was that. We made some small talk, but she kept picking up her phone and texting. SO I got up started doing some things around the house and when i came back to the living room and noticed she was just going to keep texting, I spoke up and said "Guess we're done with the paperwork" and walked over to the door, she got up, and walked out. Told her to have a good night and that I would have my signature notarized today after work.
Get to work this morning and 2 hours later I get a text from her saying "good morning". Said good morning back, no other communication the rest of the day until I texted her that it was signed. She said she'd be over tonight to pick it up, so I asked what time? She told me and I said ok. I said I'll put it in the mailbox for you, just let me know when you get it. Soon as she picked it up she let me know.
Don't know how to feel today. I felt like I gained some of my respect back last night after the texting incident. I found it pretty rude, but I kept cool. After all she is not the person I fell in love with anymore and she just acts crazy.
When she texted me after I told her the sig would be in the mailbox, she asked "okay...I take it you won't be home". I didn't respond. Just left it alone. I was home, but I just didn't want to see her. I'm just really tired of feeling like S%*t.
I'm really upset, but I have to move on with my life without her. If I'm not worth the decency to be treated like someone she did love for 10 years, then it's time to go and not waste anymore of my time.
