Cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it

[whatisis]

How about "screw you", it's short and a real attention grabber! Other than that...I got nothin'

[oldtimer]

In short, she's right, let it go.

[ImprovedRomeo]

How about this:


Yes by all means continue keeping a running record of every nickle and dime you spend towards me and now towards DD too. You're doing great lol

As for the water you did ask me to change it in April but the world doesn't revolve around you? since I was paying the bills anyway what difference did it make if your name was still on it?

I'll let you know abou the movers when I'm ready...again the world doesn't revolve around you.

Anyway, you told me you were going to get the insurance through work as soon as you qualified so why didn't you then? So now may be I should kick you off my insurance like you took your name off the bills without a care? How would you like getting a taste of your own medicine? but I won't. And no need to bring up anything about 'us' or 'we' either because that was then and this is now and besides that it was all BS and a big lie. So in your words we should just get over it and move on...

Thanks for the legal advice to get legal advice there too...I see you can use big words like 'your counsel' now.

[whatisis]

I like it...and that's not a good omen! Feel better? Now, drop it and move on. Sometimes they just get under your skin and you want to strike back but let her have her bad day and ignore it. Absolutely nothing to be gained from getting into a cat fight with her, it's a cheeseless tunnel...and uses up valuable keyboard energy that you could be using to talk about movies and women! Hey, are you dating any twins yet?

[oldtimer]

She's pretty detached in the most recent email and in the earlier email you posted, except where she let you tweak her a bit with the running total thing. You are over the top reactive. This is normal. But she is right, sweating this detail is an emotional thing, not business.

Leave her on your insurance, you and everyone else knows that it is the decent thing to do, and may well be a legal requirement. Deal with the premiums in your legal settlement as a business matter. This is only a business matter. Treat it as such.

Leave the D to the Ls, agree to her reasonable requests about the pics, get her moved out ASAP.

And, by all means, please stop trying to date.

[whatisis]

And, by all means, please stop trying to date.

...unless you've got a shot at twins.

[oldtimer]

that's a given.

[ImprovedRomeo]

It's just her audacity and this 'entitlement' attitude since this started that has to stop. There's history there that you guys maybe forgetting. When I told her to settle things out of court she took me to court and got max $$ out of me knowing full well that I didn't really make that much money after the house mortgage etc. She not only never said something like 'I'm sorry if it's too hard for you to give me x why don't you give me x-y? not only that she started asking me for petty bills and stuff on top and wanted me to pay DD's full school tuition and wants her to go to a private school! so with my strict robx and gucci attitude I've managed to set her straight...somewhat.

So I don't think my reply is over the top in that regard and I'm still debating sending it.

I sent an email to G4:

"Hey G4, sorry it took me a bit to get back to you. Just been another one of those busy days.

So about Sun I'm good with us hanging out and doing something fun but I'd be more comfortable going out than staying in. So let me know if you're up for watching a movie or grabbing a quick bite?"

Her response:

"Sure that sounds good, what other movies are you interested in seeing?"

My response:

"We can go see xyz. If not we can just grab dinner or since you've never been to xyz before we can do that. I'm up for any kind of friendly fun outing if you have any other ideas."

Her response:

"we can go see inception or shmucks for dinner and then grab some yummy dinner"

[ImprovedRomeo]

Her response:

"I haven't seen any of those movies and I would be interested in seeing any of them. I'm up for anything I just want to get out of the house and ha e fun. I worked a bunch this week and need a break! So anything you pick works for me. "

My response:

"Ah OK! one of those movies and dinner it is then.

What else do you like to do for fun? I love the outdoors- mountain biking, hiking etc so when I have time I take off and do that. It's a great stress reliever and catching some fresh air and enjoying the outdoors is nice.

Did you say you were following some kind of a workout routine? I do that 2-3 times a week too. I think a couple of these things have helped me quite a bit but I'm far from healed. Just too much baggage there so it'll take time but I'm ok with it.

Anyway, not to bore you with that stuff but I was just trying to think of things for you to do so you can get a break from work etc!"

So I think she's also just trying to get out of the rut without any major expectations. I hope I'm reading her correctly and if so that's actually pretty good because I don't really have any single friends that would hang out with me and having a woman as my wingman makes it so much easier/better

And you guys are right I'm not ready for 'dating' I just want to get out and start enjoying life a bit.

DD said stbxw took her to a baseball game yesterday with some friends...sank my heart immediately but then I said 'who cares R, she'll do what she wants to do I can't stop her even if she wants to f random guys everyday'. So that helped lol

But clearly I'm not 100% detached but this is as far detached I've ever been in the last 5 years. I'll take credit for that much.

[oldtimer]

Um, I really thought your email was mostly in jest, though very reactive.

Well, I'm right about the reactive part, but it seems that you weren't kidding.

Trust me, it is over the top, way out of control, reactive, engaged, hostile, non-businesslike, etc... WAAAAYYY over the top.

STBX's emails read pretty much fine. Sorry, but that's the way it is from an objective point of view.