How To Tell The Kids

[dday101798]

A's won't end until they are busted.

As you've said, you've done all the exposing that is warrented in my book. Ironcially, (x)W and I got in to a long productive discussion about this last night. As I've said all along, OP's involved in the A are often the exact opposite of the LBS. Thus, in my case, OM was controlling of her and a lazy slug who did NOTHING.

As I told her last night, "I knew it wouldn't last, but I had to let you go to live that life you thought you wanted, and learn for yourself". And in the irony of it all, that made her relish everything I had ever done for her more, love me more, and pave the path for her back home.

[LSG]

DanF,

It is good that you just let everything sink in for W, and I agree just to let the dust settle some for now.

Do make sure that you are getting plenty of sleep because it will help with your perspective right now.

Keep taking care of yourself.

[DanF]

Had a couple of $ discussions with W again recently. W gets paid on Thursday and there were some bills due this week, so I added them all up and calculated various payment scenarios based on her income part-time, full-time and a 50/50 split. I told her we had $1,200 of bills due between now and her next paycheck after this one, so how much are you willing to pay?

W says, well they aren't all due now, just pay the water bill and I can write you a check for $15. I pay the water bill and schedule the phone/cable/internet payment too and tell her. She says, do you want a check for $15? I probably should have taken it, but I said no, lets figure it out when you get paid.

So this morning I am walking down the steps and she asks me to write a $25 check for the babysitter. She has written one for $15. I think about it for a while and on my way out the door to work I tell her she can pay the babysitter, I am not going to. What? she asks. I tell her, you can pay the babysitter. You get paid tomorrow and the check won't clear before then anyway. Goodbye. She did not reply and I left.

The rest of the bills don't have to be paid until after our court date on Monday, so maybe I'll just wiat to see what happens with that.

This just continues to blow me away. If I were the one requesting a divorce, I would do my best to become independent as soon as I could so I wouldn't have to rely on my STBX to take care of me. Maybe that is easy to say from my position, but come-on. I just don't get it. Entitlement mentality.... Princess theory......

[Dane]

It is called Cake Eating.
Don't waste your time on trying to be logical, the entitlement is too thick with the WAW.

[A_goodman]

Dan,

Barkley got royally hosed today. I got so pissed off for him that I spouted some things that I'm not sure were what he needed right now. I went to Puppy and asked him to check in and add some wisdom. I feel like Bark is one of us and I feel really bad for the guy. Check in W/ him again will ya?

Btw, it sounds like you are really mastering this. Pretty soon, we'll be semi-pros ourself. Not exactly what I expected at this point in life, but after all we've been through I think I'll take it.

Btw, I smoked a CAO Latraviata this wknd. A couple actually. Saturday, my w's friend offered her ducats to the Rockin America tour. She didn't want to go, so me and my best friend took them. The headliner was the Scorpions. It's their farewell tour. They kicked ass! One of the few bands I've ever sen that sounded better in person. It was at the Zoo Ampitheater, so outside. We fired up the CAOs and I was thinking about you and Pup. It was a good time.

Cheers.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I never did make it by the 'gar store on Friday, and so I had to settle for a not-as-fresh-as-I-would-like 5 Vegas Classic I had at my office, that I brought home with me. Still saving the Liga Privada No. 9, and waiting 'til payday when I can get some more medium-bodied beauties to smoke, as I'm getting sick of all the Connecticuts (Rocky Patel, 5 Vegas Gold) I've been smoking lately. My kingdom for a Corojo or Maduro!!!

Just checked in on Barkley. I actually pretty much agreed with you, Goodman. He needs to play country hardball with that beotch.

Puppy

[A_goodman]

You guys have always been and will always be aces with me. I'll check in later. Gotta trim the hedges before dark.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

You guys have always been and will always be aces with me. I'll check in later. Gotta trim the hedges before dark.

Hey Dan, what's this mean? Is this some sort of EUPHEMISM that Goodman's using here? Damn, where's my Guy Code De-Coder Ring???

Puppy

[DanF]

Nice Pup! Gotta find some new BUSHes to trim soon myself!!! that was always fun for me....

I like the Punch Corojo myself. Not overly fond of the Maduro's though.

Goodman, the CAO's are nice smokes, aren't they....

I checked-in with Bark earlier and agree with you, but I will check in again tonight to see how he is doing.

Rockin' America sounds great. I saw the Scorps myself about 20 years ago in Madison WI. It was also a great show. Glad you and your bud had a good time.

I wish I was a pro. I used to feel like I had a chance in this, but I am getting discouraged. Time and patience. Or maybe it just isn't meant to be.

W went to a wake a 5pm tonight. D just texted her and she says she will be home in an hour or so. Must have gone to the bar after. Hope she has fun with her divorced friends!!

Check in with you later.

[LSG]

DanF,

You seem a little down tonight. There is always a chance to make the M work. Keep positive and your energy level up. Make sure are getting plenty of sleep and eating well. It does make a difference I have found.

Hang in there!