Originally Posted By: lolawar
In DB- it advocates some type of game playing via 180's. Not returning phone calls right away...GAL'ing instead of pining...


Hey Lola ... I've only read excerpts of Love & Respect ... that being said, I wanted to point out that true 180's are not game playing. I chose to make changes (do 180s) in areas I felt really work. Things that I wanted to change for ME. I self improved by looking for the sting in H's hurt. 180s for the sake of 180s ARE a game and won't work for the long haul. WAS's can see through them from a mile away.

Again, GALing is not game playing if you are doing it properly. FOR YOU. You should have a life. You should be pursuing a life that is independant and fulfilling ... married or otherwise. If you are truly GALing then you won't be jumping on every phone call and text message because you will be busy, not because it's a tactic.

See the difference?

Oh ... and in case I haven't recommended it to you yet "How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It" is a great read and covers some of the same kinds of concepts. I also loved Men are from Mars/Women are from Venus ... an oldie but a goodie.

Peace
PEI

Last edited by PEImom_of_3; 07/29/10 01:29 AM. Reason: cause I felt like it
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc