Originally Posted By: Lola
In DB- it advocates some type of game playing via 180's. Not returning phone calls right away...GAL'ing instead of pining...

Is not responding to your H disrespectful? even if it is a 180?


It may seem that way.

At first.

Any changes that are not real will not have longevity and neither will the M.

My short answer to this is it is a process.

By detaching you are able to go on your journey and your spouse can go on theirs.

It is really a laying down of the weapons. Not responding is not disrespectful if the fruit of it is discord and anger yes?

Aren't you being respectful by giving them what they want? Space? Freedom?

Honor them by respecting that they have the right to make their own choices.

Uncondtional love is when you can love them without wanting or expecting anything from them.

Love by letting go. Love in spite of their choices and burdens.

Do you love them only when they are respecting you?

Do you love them only when they are behaving the way you want them to.

Sh!t that's easy!

Loving when they don't...

Ahhh...there is the paradox of it.

The mystery.

The gift of this journey we are on.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am