So, yesterday H came home from a three day trip away on business. I could see him starting to crack a little before he left (completely blew his cool at an incompetent underling - not his style) and was a little worried about him travelling alone when it seemed like his depression is seeping out from under the Prozac rock a little bit. So when he got home last night, I had to pull out my old DB tricks, and make sure I kept my PMA up and acted, not reacted.
He was in a kind of subdued mood (and it's bad timing, because I really need him giving me loads of love right now - this is the week that he went off to Hawaii with the OW last year and started his affair) but I sucked it up, whipped together a nice dinner when we got home from the airport, acted AS IF, and after dinner we sat with the kids and watched a video I had rented - the Blue Collar Comedy Tour - four comedians including Jeff Foxworthy. ("If you work without your shirt on - and your husband does too - you may be a redneck!").
The video was hilarious, and I could see H start to relax as we watched it. He was still a little withdrawn and disinterested when we went to bed - but this morning made up for it by ML and telling me he loved me and that even if he didn't say it all the time, he thought it all the time. He also thanked me for my role in keeping us together through our bad times.
So the lesson, I guess - don't ASSume, keep your PMA up, bring their mood up to yours instead of letting their mood bring you down, and there's nothing like a good comedy act to lighten the mood
