BTW, when I said that you act as if the things she does doesn't bother you? I did not mean that you put up with bad behavior from her. She needs to show you respect. If she talks down to you or any of that business, call her out on it.
A woman "has" to respect her man before she is attracted sexually to him. As the H and the leader of the home...you must not excuse anything that is less than respect from your W & kids.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!